un cadou pentru viitorii parinti

Daca in anul care urmeaza un nou sufletel va intra in viata ta, te invit sa citesti randurile de mai jos, si apoi sa te gandesti sa-ti oferi un cadou de Craciun un pic mai special decat esti obisnuita :)

Daca esti (sau vei fi) pentru prima oara mamica, e totul interesant si foarte nou cu siguranta si pentru tine. Uneori e greu, pentru ca nu stii cum sa integrezi toata noutatea asta in viata ta. Dar cu sprijinul potrivit, la momentul potrivit, experienta poate fi una de-a dreptul fulminanta, plina de aventura si viata, plina de bucurie si momente de crestere...

Asa ca iti propun sa-ti oferi tie (si chiar si partenerului tau - in cazul meu, prezenta lui a fost si este una incredibil de importanta si care ne-a dus relatia la un total alt nivel de incredere, apropiere si recunostinta) un cadou mai inedit de Craciunul asta: un CURS LAMAZE, un curs care sa te pregateasca pentru momentul nasterii din toate punctele de vedere.

In asteptarea sufletelului, da-ti voie sa primesti toate informatiile de care vei avea nevoie atat la nastere (e foarte important sa fii pregatita) cat si imediat dupa. Chiar daca tot ce ai nevoie este sa-ti asculti corpul si sa lasi totul sa curga natural si de la sine, se poate ca ceea ce poti afla intr-un curs de educatie prenatala, sa-ti fie util ca sa te poti conecta si sa poti trai din plin, firesc si usor momentul venirii pe lume a noului vostru partener de drum, sa-ti dea incredere ca poti si ca ai in tine tot ce ai nevoie pentru a gestiona orice va urma.

Daca iti suna interesant, sau daca nu ai auzit inca despre cursurile Lamaze si vrei sa afli mai multe, da un ochi mai intai pe http://www.burticamea.ro/cursLamaze.php

Si-ti recomand sa va faceti cadou, tie, partenerului tau, si viitorului puiut, prezenta la cursul care incepe in 13 ianuarie 2010.

Detalii curs (in CLUJ-NAPOCA): 

Durata: 6 sedinte/2 ore pe sedinta

Tarif: 250 lei. Pentru tatici, cursul este gratuit!!

in plus, viitorii tatici primesc un atestat care le ofera dreptul la 10 zile suplimentare de concediu pentru participarea acestuia la cresterea copilului.

Pentru inscrieri: Dr. Teodora Catinas  mobil 0742 065 897, e-mail teo_rad@yahoo.com

MAI MULTE DESPRE TEODORA CATINAS:
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viziune... si liniste

Am petrecut din nou o noapte minunata si foarte speciala

a inceput cu o invitatie la un concert de colinde despre care mi s-a promis ca va fi... altfel
si a fost...intr-o biserica simpla, alba, inalta, rece, parca intr-un fel... ne-terminata, am primit o invitatie sa stam in mijloc, si sa ne lasam invaluiti de sunete
6 coruri, voci ale Filarmonicii clujene, s-au amestecat pentru a crea un spatiu aproape ireal
si totul a pornit cu o viziune
un foarte tanar compozitor, Dan Variu, si norocul lui de a fi sprijinit intr-un vis de catre profesorul unive. dr. Ioan Haplea, au facut posibile momentele de minunatie de aseara
a fost nevoie doar de o idee, de un moment in care si-a dat voie sa aiba incredere ca ceea ce simte poate deveni CEVA
si de fiecare data cand ai o viziune, se gasesc resurse pentru a o face reala
de data asta, resursele au fost chiar vocile Filarmonicii
minunate "resurse"... :)
dar e nevoie de acea IDEE care sa le faca sa fie MINUNATE...
am auzit de multe ori corul Filarmonicii, si parca niciodata nu a fost asa de special ca aseara, parca niciodata nu mi s-a mai ridicat parul pe mana ca si aseara, parca de mult nu am mai plans ascultand o... colinda...
...
si doamne ce viziune!!
pornind de la un colind vechi cules de Bela Bartok - "Pa cel plai de munte" (poate ati mai avut norocul sa-l auziti pe undeva) a carui melodie inca imi suna in minte si in suflet de aseara, Dan Variu a vrut sa surprinda vechiul si noul, ce a fost, si in ce se poate transforma, mi-a transmis din nou ca am uitat ce inseamna COLINDUL, ca in ultima vreme Craciunul s-a transformat intr-o sarbatoare... comerciala, in ceva care e doar vesel (nu-i nimic rau cu asta) si poate putin prea agitat...
poate se potriveste mai mult imaginea asta cu stilul de viata pe care il traim...
poate ca de asta zambim si incepem sa ne miscam de fiecare data cand auzim cantece de Craciun americane (sunt unele foarte faine, de altfel, si le ascult si eu deja de cand a nins prima data...)
dar aseara am simtit ca-mi lipseste profunzimea si linistea unui COLIND...
m-am lasat purtata in frenezia pe care a creat-o Dan Variu, in calatoria pe care a simtit-o si el legat de influentele noi in muzica romaneasca
si apoi m-am lasat din nou atinsa de "hainele care-i vin cel mai bine" (- ce minunata alegere de cuvinte!! -)
si am plans...
si am zambit...
pentru mine Craciunul este LINISTE
mai mult decat luminite si cadouri
mai mult decat veselie si galagie...
este sa am timp sa aranjez un bradut, sa-l simt si sa-i aleg fiecare podoaba, sa ma bucur de cat de speciala este si de spatiul pe care i-l ofer pe creanga...
sa ascult colinde romanesti si sa cant cat ma tine vocea...
sa sting apoi lumina in casa si sa ma asez in fata bradutului lasandu-ma pierduta intre luminite si sclipici...

Multumesc Dan Variu pentru ca mi-ai oferit din nou linistea asta!
si e minunat cum totul a pornit de la viziune
e extraordinar sa vezi ce MINUNE se poate crea, ce transpunere a sufletului, cata conectare si TRAIRE, avand doar un gand, o idee, un sentiment, o viziune... si increderea de a o transforma in realitate
multumesc Dan Variu ca ai avut incredere in tine
multumesc domnului profesor Haplea ca i-a dat curaj si ca l-a sustinut
si fara sa minimizez importanta vocilor din corul Filarmonicii, fara viziunea pe care Dan a avut-o, acele voci ar fi tacut........

despre a darui

Azi dimineata a venit un articol spre mine, un articol care scrie despre ce am simtit eu aseara

in ajun de Mos Nicolae, am schimbat cadouri cu cei doi oameni dragi din familia noastra (Lia si Luci), dar dupa momentul cadourilor, am avut un moment care a fost de mii de ori mai special, mai ales ca a fost atat de simplu...

... am luat cina impreuna, am stat si am povestit, am baut un pahar de sampanie, 

si iubirea s-a simtit atat de simpla, de clara si de frumoasa...

momentele astea sunt de nepretuit...

iubesc faptul ca la noi acasa este asa de multa relaxare si bucurie simpla

ma bucur ca este liniste

ma bucur ca ne putem conecta la asta

si asta e cel mai frumos cadou

ca in fiecare zi, in fiecare clipa, sa simti ca esti iubit, ca ai sprijin, NECONDITIONAT, ca celuilalt ii pasa, ca se gandeste constant la tine...

la noi acasa, este o FAMILIE...

creata, nu primita...

si in familia asta s-a nascut si puiutul nostru pe care il iubim la fel de firesc si de simplu si fara atasament...

alegem sa ne iubim si sa ne daruim...

si da, imi place tare mult sa cumpar cadouri...

dar de fiecare data e mai important sa gasesc cadoul potrivit pentru omul respectiv...

ma conectez la ce simt pentru el, si de multe ori imi iese o felicitare facuta de mana, cateva cuvinte despre cat de drag imi este si despre ce inseamna sau a insemnat in viata mea

si restul cadoului este doar accidental

cand il ofer, ofer de fapt iubire...

si-mi place sa atasez oricarui cadou un gand...

articolul este mai transant si vorbeste despre consumerism...

pe mine m-a conectat la faptul ca intram intr-un automatism de a CUMPARA... versus a OFERI...

si uitam de fapt care este scopul...

nu un cadou scump, nu un cadou pur si simplu, nu e vorba de cadou

ci despre a oferi ceva cuiva...

cititi si voi mai jos si vedeti de fapt de ce ati ajuns pe aici...

si ce veti face anul asta de Craciun, de zile de nastere, sau cu alte ocazii... va veti consuma energia mergand din magazin in magazin, sau va veti conecta la omul caruia vreti sa-i faceti un cadou, si ii veti OFERI ceva, din suflet...

poate sa fie chiar si doar o imbratisare, un zambet, sau o vizita, nu pe fuga, nu din obligatie, ci cu timp pentru povesti si transfer de iubire... :)

va imbratisez pe toti cei care ajungeti pe aici...

cu drag si cu ochii zambind... :)

sursa: http://zenhabits.net/bah/

The Case Against Buying Christmas Presents

Post written by Leo Babauta.

I love Christmas. I love the snow-themed everything, even when I was living on tropical Guam, and Santa and elves and reindeer and snowmen and candy canes. Yes, I even love the non-stop playing of Christmas music for two months.
Most of all, I love getting together with my family — eating Christmas cookies, singing Christmas carols together, gossiping and laughing at each other. It’s tremendous fun.
I don’t love Christmas shopping, or the overconsumption, frenzied malls, consumer debt, environmental waste, wasted time wrapping, and over-accumulation of needless stuff that goes with it.
Bah humbug! I love Christmas, but the shopping has got to go. Here’s why. Warning: This will be a rant of near-epic proportions.
1. The focus is on buying, not on sharing. I love the idea of giving to people you love, but that idea has been twisted. Now people go out in a mad rush to shop, like ravenous vampires feasting on new blood. We shop for a month, rip apart the packaging one morning, and then forget about it the next day. Is this about giving, or buying?
2. Giving is great, but buying is not the solution. Again, I’m in love with giving … but do we need to buy to give? We seem to think that buying is the solution to any problem, but that has lead to a society that is deeply in debt and piled high with needless stuff. We can find other ways to give: bake cookies, wash someone’s car, babysit so they can go on a date night, create a photo album, be there when they need help moving.
3. The waste, oh the waste. Let’s start with packaging: the packaging for every toy is double the volume of the toy itself. From cardboard to plastic to metal twist-ties, it’s ridiculous. Then every item we buy must be brought home in bags. We often put everything in boxes. Then we buy wrapping paper and wrap it all up. All of this gets thrown away on Christmas day. Finally, there’s the gift itself — people get so much stuff they can’t possibly treasure everything. So it goes into the closet to be forgotten.
4. The sorrowful debt. Most people spend hundreds if not thousands of dollars on gifts and wrapping. Not to mention all the money spent on gas, driving to different shopping places, and the money spent on fattening food at mall food courts. This goes on credit cards (and around our waistlines), and we then must pay for this — with high interest — during the year. Even if you don’t get into debt, you’re spending money earned from long hours of hard work — is this really how you want to spend your life, paying for needless stuff so corporations can get rich?
5. The horrendous, insipid, seizure-inducing advertising. I can’t stand advertising, and it only gets worse on Christmas. The ads pound on you relentlessly until you give in — and it works. That’s been proven — those ads are getting you to buy more, to want more, to lay down the credit card. I don’t watch TV, read newspapers or magazines, or allow ads in my browser (AdBlock) so that I don’t have to be subjected to this.
6. The fuel. If you drive all over the place to shop, you’re using lots of fuel. Even if you just order online, think of the fuel it takes to deliver these products (overnight!) to your home. And the fuel used to create the products, to get the raw materials to the factories, to cut down the raw materials, to ship the finished product to the stores or warehouses from around the world (most likely from China), not to mention all the fuel used to create and ship the packaging. It’s a few million metric craploads of fuel, wasted for giving some presents that will be forgotten.
7. There are still hungry people in the world. In the frenzy that is Christmas shopping, we spend ridiculous amounts of money that is pure waste. In other countries, people are struggling just to eat, or get medicine, or find shelter, or get clean drinking water. We spend so much in a show of consumerist greed, when that money could go to feed a few dozen families. If you have money to waste, consider donating it to an organization that is helping these types of families. I know this sounds preachy, but really, this kind of reminder is necessary in times like these.
8. The neverending clutter. What happens to all the gifts? They go on our shelves, in our closets, on the floor. We already have so much clutter — do we need more? We already have problems figuring out what to do with everything we own. Why do we want to clutter our homes even more? Why do we want to force clutter on our loved ones, oblige them to find a spot in their already cluttered homes for this gift we’ve given them, so they won’t offend us when we come to visit? Is this obligation really a gift?

Questions

Q: But what about the kids?
A: Kids love getting presents (I have six kids — I should know!). I sure did when I was a kid. Are we to rob them of this? It’s a difficult question, but another side of the equation to consider is what we are teaching the kids. They don’t just participate in the opening of presents — they see all the shopping too. They are being taught to shop, and to value material goods over anything else. Imagine their lives when they’re grown — a life of shopping and debt and waste, because that’s what’s important, right? So for the joy of opening a few presents for a couple hours on Christmas day, we’re imparting on them consumerist values that will last them a lifetime.
I think, instead, this can be a great opportunity to have an open discussion with kids about buying and spending and debt. Did you receive this kind of education when you were a kid? Would you have been better off if you had? This is also a great opportunity to teach kids about giving to others, about volunteering and helping the less fortunate, about finding other ways to spend time with loved ones that don’t require shopping. My kids do want presents — but I don’t want them to think that’s what Christmas is all about. We’ve been having this discussion and we will continue to this month.
Q: But what about family?
A: Family, believe it or not, will survive without a few presents from us. They can continue to shop and give presents, but you can simply tell them that you don’t want to participate this year. Send them a link to this article to explain why.
This is also a great opportunity (you see how I love turning problems into opportunities?) to create new traditions with your family — go caroling, string popcorn for the tree, make Christmas cookies, bake pies, play football outside, create Christmas scrapbooks, volunteer.
Q: But I love giving presents!
A: Sure, who doesn’t? And you might also love shopping. Shopping, for many people, is a pleasure like no other. This can be a problem, in my mind: you might be using shopping to give you temporary happiness, to fill a hole in your life, to make you happy when you’re depressed or stressed or lonely. I’m not saying you are, but many people do, and it’s good to take a look at these things. Richer happiness can be found in simpler things that don’t involve spending: being with loved ones, creating, reading, getting outside and doing something active.
Even if you aren’t addicted to shopping, you might just love giving presents. And that’s OK — but you might consider giving more meaningful presents that don’t require lots of shopping. Creating a photo album or scrapbook for someone takes time and thought, while laying down a credit card at Macy’s doesn’t.
Q: How do you convince a spouse who equates lavish gifts with love & appreciation?
A: This definitely isn’t easy. It’s an important discussion to have, however. You’ll need to do it without accusations, without resentment, without making the other person feel he’s under attack. Bring it up as an ongoing discussion about things you’re thinking about — maybe even point to this post as a starting point.
This is such an important discussion because so many couples get badly into debt for this reason — one partner has different values about material goods, shopping, debt, gifts, and so on, and the other partner hates to fight about it so doesn’t talk about it. Financial issues are also a big reason couples split up. So finding a healthy way to talk about values, about financial goals, about how you want to live your lives, is so crucial. Do it gently, with compassion, as a way to live together as a team rather than two people struggling against each other.
A good way to get started is to write a blog post or a letter to your spouse about your feelings — again, without being attacking. You might explain why you’re not into giving presents, that you still love your spouse but want to show it in non-consumerist ways, that there are other traditions the two of you could start together to share your love.

Alternatives to buying

There are so many good ideas, but a few:

• Do other things with family, such as caroling, baking, watching It’s a Wonderful Life, playing football outside.
• Volunteer as a family at a homeless shelter.
• Ask people to donate to your favorite charity in lieu of gifts.
• Make meaningful gifts.
• Do a gift swap where you put a valued possession (that you already own) into the swap.
• Bake gifts.
• Have an experience instead of giving material goods: do something fun together, go to the beach or a lake.
• Find hope. Christmas has so much potential to be about so much more than buying — it can be a season of hope, renewal, loved ones, inspiration, contemplation. Talk to your family about this — how can we find ways to be hopeful, thankful, cooperative? How can we be more present instead of worried about getting presents?
• Get stuff at Goodwill. It’s recycled, and the money helps a good cause.